{"id":1347,"date":"2013-01-23T19:03:42","date_gmt":"2013-01-24T01:03:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/?p=1347"},"modified":"2013-01-23T11:45:27","modified_gmt":"2013-01-23T17:45:27","slug":"hoarder-more-likely-challenging-disorganization","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/2013\/01\/hoarder-more-likely-challenging-disorganization\/","title":{"rendered":"Hoarder? More Likely Challenging Disorganization."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>With the proliferation of television shows about hoarding, many people see hoarders around them.\u00a0 Or think they do.\u00a0 It\u2019s a pet peeve of mine that every person who has \u201ctoo much stuff\u201d is now deemed a hoarder.\u00a0 Never mind that \u201ctoo much stuff\u201d is extremely subjective, hoarding is quite a bit more complex than to be simply about too much stuff.\u00a0 Therefore, let\u2019s explore different aspects about stuff and see if we can clear up these misconceptions about hoarding.\u00a0 (If you want the more technical information about hoarding, see my post, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/2013\/01\/defining-hoarding\/\" target=\"_blank\">&#8220;Defining Hoarding.&#8221;<\/a>)<\/p>\n<p>As I already stated, it\u2019s about more than stuff.\u00a0 I\u2019ll admit it; I have a lot of stuff.\u00a0 Even \u201ctoo much stuff.\u201d\u00a0 As my husband and I have gone through various rooms, I\u2019m amazed by the amount of excess we find hidden away, forgotten about.\u00a0 And the large piles that I set out to be donated have shocked me and we have more to go.\u00a0 The people I work with have varying amount of stuff; some quite a bit and some hidden away in closets and drawers where it doesn\u2019t \u201clook\u201d cluttered.\u00a0 Yet, we each want something different from our spaces \u2013 from the desire to be surrounded to the desire to have the open space (see my entry, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/2012\/10\/envisioning-your-space\/\" target=\"_blank\">\u201cEnvisioning Your Space\u201d<\/a>).\u00a0 Believe it or not, there\u2019s no one right way for a space to look and that means someone somewhere will think that there\u2019s \u201ctoo much stuff\u201d there.<\/p>\n<p>What is your relationship to your stuff?\u00a0 This is one of the features that help to distinguish what is happening with the stuff around you.\u00a0 I laughing cringe at the idea of getting rid of my media \u2013 those books, CDs, and movies and yet, that is exactly what I have been slowly doing.\u00a0 My movie collection has been cut by more than half and it feels good.\u00a0 Removing all outside obstacles, what happens to you when you decide to get rid of things?\u00a0 Those obstacles can be:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>minimizing the sense of being overwhelmed<\/li>\n<li>the absence of someone judging or trying to tell you what to do<\/li>\n<li>the freedom to take your time and think through your choices<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Finding the space where these pieces come together can be challenging, yet what happens then?<\/p>\n<p>It breaks my heart to hear about people being told they are \u201choarders\u201d and I know from my knowledge and experience that they aren\u2019t even close to being hoarders.\u00a0 From what I can tell, it\u2019s more about someone in their life thinking that they know better than the client.\u00a0 They believe that they \u201cshould\u201d get rid of this or that; that they \u201cshould\u201d not struggle with making decisions; that they \u201cshould\u201d be able to easily change long time habits after a \u201cclean sweep\u201d; etcetera.\u00a0 This is probably a large reason that having your family help you with your stuff often backfires.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s a different term than hoarder, for people who have struggled with stuff for a long time, that may or may not have clutter around them and that\u2019s chronically disorganized.\u00a0 Since this has a rather clinical sound to it, the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.challengingdisorganization.org\/\" target=\"_blank\">Institute of Challenging Disorganization<\/a> prefers to refer to it as challenging disorganization that can also be applied to the situational disorganization some people can struggle with after major life events.\u00a0 They define chronic disorganization as:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Chronic disorganization is having a past history of disorganization in which self-help efforts to change have failed, an undermining of current quality of life due to disorganization, and the expectation of future disorganization.<\/p>\n<p>http:\/\/www.challengingdisorganization.org\/content\/frequently-asked-questions-public<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Hoarding is about much more than the stuff \u2013 however subjective \u2013 and relates to how we deal with that stuff.\u00a0 The chance is that your grandmother\/uncle\/brother-in-law is not a true hoarder.\u00a0 That doesn\u2019t mean that organization isn\u2019t a tremendous challenge for them.\u00a0 When there\u2019s lots of stuff around, however hidden it may or may not be, it requires a lot of work and effort.\u00a0 Simply modifying the behaviors is an extreme challenge and takes time.\u00a0 Try to keep in mind your own biases \u2013 your own view of what makes up \u201ctoo much stuff.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes it sounds like hoarders are all around us.  And not to say they\u2019re not a larger group that we realize, we\u2019ve gotten sloppy about seeing everyone as having too much stuff.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[10,8,18,19,5,9,15,17],"class_list":["post-1347","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-organizing","tag-behavior","tag-discipline","tag-goals","tag-hoarding","tag-household","tag-motivation","tag-resources","tag-spaces"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7p82c-lJ","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1347","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1347"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1347\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1351,"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1347\/revisions\/1351"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1347"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1347"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.jenniferlinnig.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1347"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}